There are a lot of sites and articles online that show you how to get your ex back, hence I will not waste my time adding another to the already humongous list. Instead, I’ll be concentrating on what not to do, if you want to stand a clear and good chance of getting your girlfriend back.

Although this topic is not exactly what you would call as ‘often addressed’, but I feel it is equally important, if not more, than the things that should be done to get a loved one back, since people are more put off by wrongdoings than they are softened by sweet deeds. Hence you must avoid these three things at all costs, no matter what your heart tells you.

1) Space – This is the time when your ex needs her space the most, since she has undergone a traumatic break up from her relationship. Do not give heed to how much you crave to see her or talk to her, as it will only make her feel overcrowded and suffocated by you, making things much worse for you. She might even accuse you of being a stalker. Therefore it is important to maintain a certain amount of distance and stay out of sight for some time. This is the most important of the free advice that I can give you on getting your ex back.

2) Never Beg – The important thing to realise is, women judge you based on how you handle yourself in such a situation rather than how much you display your longing for her by going over the top. Even though your heart will tell you to beg for her to return, it is only steering you in the wrong direction. It is very important to keep your masculine pride at such times. You should say little, only what matters and will make a difference, and stay calm.

3) Stop Bargaining – The most natural tendency at the end of a relationship is to offer anything that you think will make her give you a second shot at it. This approach does nothing but make things worse, as relationships are all about giving and taking, and if you’re the only one who’s giving, then it’s not a relationship at all. Resist the urge to ‘bargain’ with your ex. It will only cause you problems in the future.

Note: This article is written from the male point of view, that is, for a man who is trying to get his ex girlfriend back. However, the points mentioned work for anyone, man or woman, who is trying to get their ex back.